Yesterday was rough. Stress got the best of us. Moving is hard work. I know it is for the better good but it is still a lot of work when you are in the thick of it. And husband and I, didn’t handle yesterday very well. We were both pretty short tempered with one another, which is never a good thing. A few snappy words by one of us (not even sure how it started) and it was ON. All down hill from there.
By the afternoon, it was time to take a break. I took the kids over to a friends to hang out and just chill while my husband went to play Frisbee golf to blow off some steam. I think we just needed a break; we were going, going, going non-stop and we just came to a breaking point. It happens. Marriage is hard work to say the least. I know that is not a news flash or anything but sometimes when things are going along swimmingly we I forget how much work it is so on the rough days, we throw up our hands and just become ugly. (Maybe that is just me). I really try to live life Christ like in every aspect of my life including my marriage but sometimes the ugliness gets the better of me.
I know I really need to learn to not be so demanding i.e. controlling. (Hangs head low; it is one of my personaility traits that I am working on daily). I have high expectations on myself therefore I tend to put those same expectations on others all to often. And of course I am type A so when things need to get done, I just like to get them done now, not 5 minutes from now, NOW. And if they are not done now and to my level of expectations, then I will just do it myself! It is a tough personality trait to deal with some times most of the time. I know it is silly because we all do things differently and by now I should know what makes my husband click or clack but yet old habits die slow.
I wish I could magically move (and unpack) everything like on I Dream Of Jeannie. A few blinks of an eye, tilt of the head, pony tail flipping and voila. We aren’t moving very far so it should be pretty easy. I guess I Am Not Superwoman nor Barbara Eden so onward and upward we shall go.
I leave you with this quote to ponder:
Almost no one is foolish enough to imagine that he automatically deserves great success in any field of activity; yet almost everyone believes that he automatically deserves success in marriage.
~Sydney J. Harris
~Sydney J. Harris
What do you and your spouse struggle with the most these days?
Oh hon - you just described me and my life in a few short paragraphs (and I'm not even moving house)
ReplyDeleteHang in there, it will all come together. I guess remembering why you and hubby decided to make this move is important.
Hugs are winging their way across the world to you right about now. Keep smiling, stay strong and remember to say sorry occasionally (even if you believe you're right - which you probably are ~grin~)
I hate days when my marraige doesn't run smoothly. It usually hits me out of nowhere. At least the two of you knew to get away and take a break from eacdh other. It's better than fighting.
ReplyDeleteThis is one subject that I never mind getting on. Marriage is tough. Marriage is as solid as the two in the marriage combined with faith, as well as, the choice of support surrounding them. Can't go on very long in a "comment", but things happen. Words are exchanged. If Christ is center, forgiveness is always ready to be given and accepted on both behalfs. We're human, this is what He knew we'd do, that's why He did what He did for us. Not just death and resurrection, but the lessons on love that Jesus taught. New life can be started every given moment. (And, He said, "do not despair.........". It will all be ok. He promised.)
ReplyDeleteThanks ladies for your comments and support. I truly appreciate each of you. Life is back to normal with hubby and I. We do have our days just like everyone and the move is almost over. Then onto unpacking and redecorating (which is fun).
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