Can We Really Have It All?

I read an article recently asking the question, "Do Women Have Themselves To Blame for Work-Family Imbalance?"  It brought up several key points how we, women, put such high expectations on ourselves and therefore when we are not *perfect* and live up to those expectations than we deem ourselves as a failure in (insert whatever is at hand at the moment).  And guilt.  We have such GUILT about it.  We are essentially our own worse enemy.

It is an interesting topic because it is similar to the premise of my blog (and confessional posts) and how it came about.  I used to be one of those women that felt I had to be perfect at everything.  Perfect wife, perfect mother, perfect employee, etc and then one day I woke up completly and utterly exhausted and said...say it with me here:

I Am Not Superwoman!

I can not be perfect at all things to all people.  Heck, I can't even be semi perfect at all things for that matter.

Now don't get me wrong, just because I had this AHA moment,  it does not mean I have become complacent by any means but rather I have come to grips that for me, perfection, is fleeting.  I do the best that I can with what I have to work with.  I have some good days, some bad days. 

....My house is a mess but I got out of bed. 
.........My kids are fed even if it is just cereal out of the box for breakfast. 
...............My husband and I, we bicker but make up.


I am done (have been done) with perfection as the end all, be all of my existance.  And you can be too!  Just let it go.  Enjoy your time with your imperfect family, in your messy house, driving your dirty car through the drive thru for dinner.  It is not the end of the world if every dinner is not made from scratch.  Shh, nobody will even know unless you tell them.  But you have food, you have life.  That is what matters! 


Stop trying to keep up with The Jones'.  Be the keeper of  your life, your family, your GOD how it fits you.  One size does not fit all.  What works for me, might not work for you.  What works for you, might not work for me.

Find that happy medium.  Help support your family but don't kill yourself trying to do so, that is not going to help anybody.  Give your all at work but turn off your brain from work when you step in your front door.  Be present at home.  Sit down with the kids, read them a book instead of cleaning the kitchen.  Throw in a ready made lasagna for dinner so you can converse with your husband/wife instead of slaving over the stove. 


And stop reading blogs of those that profess to be perfect!  This only does more harm than good to your self esteem.

In closing, to answer the question, "Can We Really Have It All?"  I think we can get pretty close to having it ALL (whatever all is in our own eyes) BUT we will probably have to lower our high expectations a little bit. 


What do you think?




I am linking this post up to 6WS over at Showmyface.com.  Did you figure out what my 6 words are?

If You Wait Until.....

 you finish school,

until you go back to school,

until you lose ten pounds,

until you gain ten pounds,

until you have kids,

until your kids leave the house,

until you start work,

until you retire,

until you get married,

until you get divorced,

until Friday night,

until Sunday morning,

until you get a new car or home,

until your car or home is paid off,

until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter,

until you are off welfare,

until the first or fifteenth,

until your song comes on,

until you've had a drink,

until you've sobered up,

until you die,

until you are born again

to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy...

~Author Unknown

Then you will be waiting a long time. 

You are in the drivers seat! Step on the gas!

To INSPIRE

For those that say they are too old, it's too late, etc to persue their dreams...

I say (as does C.S. Lewis).....

And to quote a well known shoe maker:

Just Do It!

 

What is your dream, your goals that you have been putting off?  And why?

Happy Friday!

Confessions Of A Non Superwoman #21

Wow, has it really been well over a month since I posted a confessional?  That is crazy!  No wonder why I have so many faux pas stored up.  LOL.

1.  I haven't posted a confessional since May 10th!

2.  I have only done one blog post this week and it was an insomnia driven post.  Yikes!  What a slacker. 

3.  Since we moved, my kitchen sink has often times been buried with dishes.  You see, new house is older, so no dishwasher.  I know!  Acckkkk!  But actually, I don't mind washing dishes, when I do wash them, they end up much cleaner most of the time.  Key words: when I do them. 

4. I didn't even post my menu on MPM this week and have not been very consistent with that either, lately.  I still have my plan just don't or didn't post.  Maybe next week.

5.  Roasted Asparagus is on the menu AGAIN tonight.  I think we have eaten Roasted Asparagus every week at some point for the past month.  But they are so good, can't help it.  Talk about over kill, huh?

6.  And chips and salsa with a tad bit of sour cream.  Hello!  Delish.  I can eat that for breakfast, lunch and dinner, but probably shouldn't but maybe did. I am sure there are worse things right?  Carbs, veggies, and calcium?

7.  Laundry.   Barely scratch the surface basket.  Too much.  Nuff said.  Where is my laundry fairy?

Ok, enough for now, I am really feeling inadequate as a wife, mother, cook.  I have to go now. 

Actually, I have been thinking about setting up a blog hop type linky for confessional type posts because I KNOW we all have those moments, days, weeks, months where everything is just, just, just, so overwhelming and wouldn't it be great to confess in company?  We will support you through thick piles of laundry, burned dinners, forgotten kids at summer camp, a thin wallet because you didn't balance your check book right (although who does that these days?).... You name it, one of us has probably done it once a million times.

What do you think?  Would you link up?

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Ticker Tape Ramblings

Yep, here I sit 142am, wide awake.

Stepping and tripping on a transformer on your way to the bathroom I guess will do that for you.

So yep, here I sit bright eyed and bushy tailed.

Checking the weather for a few places this next week.  I want to go somewhere fun with no rain.  Not looking very promising. 

I think I ate way to many carbs and sugar last night at the church potluck and cake auction.  I was so tired by 9pm, crashed and burned.  And now, up.


Funny story about the cake auction, we won the bid on some cupcakes, not intentionally mind you, I know for a good cause (raising money to send kids to summer camp), but even so didn't intend on bidding on them. You see my husband was on one side of the room, waving his hands to get my attention and our Pastor Mike, caught him and well, SOLD!  First thing Mike said 2x at the beginning of the auction, if you so much touch your head, pick your nose, any movements of the arms to the upper area of your body, you will be in the bidding.  Ha!  He wasn't kidding.  Luckily, we were also able to walk away with a lovely Cherry Cheesecake, intentionally.  The kids did a fantastic job!


Our house.  IN.SHAMBLES.

Maybe I should be cleaning instead of blogging. 

Maybe not because then everyone will be up.  Not good.

Tyler has another basketball camp this week.  Thank goodness for grandma and grandpa dropping/picking up.

We went and saw our nephew this weekend down in Salem.  One word: ADORABLE.  Two words:  Sooooo Cute.  He was asleep most of the time and he was making these cute little snoring sounds the whole time.  He did open his eyes for a little bit so we did get a few good pictures of him.  Love him!

I'm getting sleepy now but I have to be up in less than 3 hours to go to work.  What to do.  Stay up or try and go back to sleep for a little bit longer.

I think I am going to try and go back to sleep otherwise I will be a walking zombie at work.  And work this week going to be busy, busy so I think I better try and get my rest.

Night, night, sleep tight, don't let the bed bugs bite.